SEXUAL CONFIDENCE

Thank you for your fabulous questions my darlings

Last week I took to my instagram to ask my followers to hit me up with questions on the topic of Sexual Confidence.

QUESTION 1

I would like to be more confident around women, how should I act?

I advise to always be yourself, engage with him or her with open body language, keep eye contact, smile and be charismatic. Whether you're a man or a woman, we are all attracted to a confident person. Ask her questions about herself and reply to show you understand her. Be genuine in your interest, in what she’s saying..

QUESTION 2

How do you tell your partner you want more affection and sex?

I believe communication is the key to a successful relationship. Have an honest conversation with your partner, tell them how much you love them and you’d like to express this more by having more sex and showing affection to one another.

QUESTION 3

How do I give a lap dance in a classy way?

The best way to give a lap dance when you’re a newbie is to keep it really simple; no need for splits or attempting to put your leg over your shoulder, haha.

Step 1

Choose an outfit that’s easy to get undressed. Wear his work shirt with heels. Use his tie to tie him up. Just a few of many ideas you can do. A sexy dressing gown is also exciting and easy to undress, perhaps with a sexy lingerie set underneath.

Step 2

Practice your sexy strip tease in the mirror to your chosen track. Keep it slow. Keep eye contact and remember wherever your hands go his/her eyes will follow. If you’ve attended one of my STRUT Masterclasses, use the Pussy cat, Peacock or the Seductress Strut to seduce him/her.

Keep relaxed and have fun with it. If you're feeling brave introduce sensual movement, nice slow movements of the hips and don’t be afraid to touch yourself.

Step 3

Set the scene Light some candles. Play your sexy music and start your seduction!

QUESTION 4

How do I turn on my partner without feeling like I look silly?

The first thing I teach my ladies in my Sexual Body Confidence Course is that you must learn how to seduce yourself before being able to seduce others. First thing is to address the inner critic - that voice telling you you’re not sexy and confident. The voice that’s making you feel that you’d look silly being sensual. Give her a name and then tell her to take a seat and watch. In other words tell her to fuck off. Create instead a character that you wanna be in that moment. This is the beginning of you becoming more confident. Once you’ve named your new character, start to think about how she’d stand, walk and move. Here are some exercises to help you get in the flow.

Practice sensual movement in the mirror to your favourite song that makes you feel sexy

View yourself in the mirror daily and tell yourself how beautiful and sexy you are

Feel good about yourself! Exercise; get you hair done; show yourself some love and affection

Do your affirmations for a week or two beforehand, I am confident, I am sexy, I love my body

Feel comfortable and confident with your body

Set the scene. Light some candles. Play sexy music. Set him or her a bath. Wear something sexy. Do your hair and make up. Wear a nice perfume. This will let your partner know its sexy time and it will give you a chance to settle your nerves.

Remember your partner loves you and already views you as a beautiful woman. This is all about how you view yourself. Confidence is sexy, so be confident and enjoy it. Your partner wants to receive this level of attention from you, so have fun. Don’t try to be perfect, just be yourself. And the more you do it the better you’ll be a sexy seductress.

QUESTION 5

How to feel it when you're just not feeling it in the everyday?

There are times that we as women don’t feel sexy. Many factors can play a part in this. The time of the month, busy week with work or the kids and you’re feeling absolutely shattered. I get it!

However, it's important to take time out to pay attention to ourselves and our own needs.

The best way to get your sexy back is to turn the attention on yourself. View yourself as the beautiful, sensual goddess that you are. Here are some affirmations to do whilst introducing touch. These can be done while you’re oiling your skin or showering in the shower.

I am beautiful

I am enough

I am exquisite

Set yourself a Goddess bath with sensual oils. Light some candles and relax. Use this time to recharge and disconnect. Listen to soft music or meditation music. This is your time to be with you.

Grooming and feeling sexy for yourself!

It's important that you feel sexy for you. I encourage healthy eating and exercising as it helps with energizing the body. Great for mind and spirit as well as body. Once we work on the inside, the outside is easy to do. Feel good and look even better.

I always feel great once I’ve done my grooming, eyebrows on fleek, legs and vagina shaved. (Yes, I shave because the last time I got waxed it felt like she was ripping my vaginal lips out haha.)

Hair done, skin looks great because of all the water I’ve drunk and all the fresh fruit I've eaten.

Don’t underestimate the power of music. Play your jam in the mornings. Dance around and be happy. Stand in the mirror with your hands on your hips and say: I am here, I am confident, I am a woman. This will help your confidence grow!!

For more coaching tips on how to be sexy and confident check out my fabulous Sexual Body Confidence Course and Confidence Coaching Telephone Sessions.